Comments on: Heart of Darkness http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/ Astrologer April Elliott Kent's Blog For the Astrologically Insatiable Mon, 26 Jul 2010 18:16:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: April http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-76 April Thu, 21 Sep 2006 05:30:40 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-76 Hi Chris, and apologies for the delay in replying to your comment. Yeah, Canada's closer, but I'm married to a Kiwi - so it's always tempting to consider NZ! :) If you're on good terms with your ex-employer, I wonder if a graceful approach might be to give them a letter for your client and ask that it be forwarded on your behalf? I'm certain your client would appreciate it; it might remove some of the sting for both of you if he could be reassured that he simply caught you on a bad day and that you regret losing your professionalism. And no doubt you'd sleep better nights! So write your letter, and then, satisfied that you've truly learned everything you can from this situation, forgive yourself and move on. Chances are that's exactly what your sweet old client has already done. Thanks so much for reading the blog, and warmest wishes - A. Hi Chris, and apologies for the delay in replying to your comment. Yeah, Canada’s closer, but I’m married to a Kiwi – so it’s always tempting to consider NZ! :)

If you’re on good terms with your ex-employer, I wonder if a graceful approach might be to give them a letter for your client and ask that it be forwarded on your behalf? I’m certain your client would appreciate it; it might remove some of the sting for both of you if he could be reassured that he simply caught you on a bad day and that you regret losing your professionalism. And no doubt you’d sleep better nights!

So write your letter, and then, satisfied that you’ve truly learned everything you can from this situation, forgive yourself and move on. Chances are that’s exactly what your sweet old client has already done.

Thanks so much for reading the blog, and warmest wishes – A.

]]> By: Chris http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Chris Fri, 15 Sep 2006 08:49:16 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-65 Hi April, I thought Canada might be a bit closer geographically speaking..he..he..he. Either way, I'm sure I speak for most readers when I say I'm glad you haven't run off to Kiwi land, even though I do hold a soft spot for the All Blacks (awesome rugby team). Seriously though, I wanted some advice regarding your comment "Clients who transgressed my boundaries were unceremoniously kicked to the curb". I seem to find myself in a similar position, but since I've left my post, is it wise that I speak to my ex-employer and get them to apologise to the client on my behalf( my conscience is killing me, he was a sweet old man like my Dad). What happened was that I let my over-sensitivity create a problem in my professional capacity...why didn't I just cry like a girl instead...sigh. Can you offer some insight.....I know I've waffled on, but it would help me to go to sleep at night, sad but true. Thanks for all your help, again Gratefully yours Chris Hi April,
I thought Canada might be a bit closer geographically speaking..he..he..he. Either way, I’m sure I speak for most readers when I say I’m glad you haven’t run off to Kiwi land, even though I do hold a soft spot for the All Blacks (awesome rugby team).
Seriously though, I wanted some advice regarding your comment
“Clients who transgressed my boundaries were unceremoniously kicked to the curb”.
I seem to find myself in a similar position, but since I’ve left my post, is it wise that I speak to my ex-employer and get them to apologise to the client on my behalf( my conscience is killing me, he was a sweet old man like my Dad). What happened was that I let my over-sensitivity create a problem in my professional capacity…why didn’t I just cry like a girl instead…sigh.
Can you offer some insight…..I know I’ve waffled on, but it would help me to go to sleep at night, sad but true.

Thanks for all your help, again
Gratefully yours
Chris

]]> By: April http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-60 April Thu, 14 Sep 2006 00:04:18 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-60 Hi Chris, and thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I guess I kind of am trying to give my native land a bit more time to pull itself together; at least, I haven’t run off to New Zealand yet, as I keep threatening to do. :) My mother’s sense of perspective is what I find myself missing most of all. A die-hard liberal and a sensible, comforting Taurus, she was great at talking me down from ledges (figuratively speaking!) when I started railing about politics. Her take on it all, I feel certain, would have echoed your own optimism; I’ll try to keep her voice - and yours - in my mind when I begin wringing my hands! Hi Chris, and thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I guess I kind of am trying to give my native land a bit more time to pull itself together; at least, I haven’t run off to New Zealand yet, as I keep threatening to do. :) My mother’s sense of perspective is what I find myself missing most of all. A die-hard liberal and a sensible, comforting Taurus, she was great at talking me down from ledges (figuratively speaking!) when I started railing about politics. Her take on it all, I feel certain, would have echoed your own optimism; I’ll try to keep her voice – and yours – in my mind when I begin wringing my hands!

]]> By: Chris http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-56 Chris Wed, 13 Sep 2006 12:40:16 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-56 April I can't help but feel sad reading your post. I feel some connection to your pain, although it can't ever compare to losing your closest relatives, I had a couple of motor vehicle accidents that may have sent me a little "nuts" for want of a better word. I felt like a mini-tornado ran rampant through my life for a period of 10 hours and up-rooted everything I held dear. However I am a little more optimistic than you, maybe because I'm getting on in years, but I can't help but feel that the human spirit is capable of both enormous cruelty and volumes of kindness. Maybe even by the same person. Who knows, maybe you should give your country more time. Keep well, April I can’t help but feel sad reading your post. I feel some connection to your pain, although it can’t ever compare to losing your closest relatives, I had a couple of motor vehicle accidents that may have sent me a little “nuts” for want of a better word. I felt like a mini-tornado ran rampant through my life for a period of 10 hours and up-rooted everything I held dear.
However I am a little more optimistic than you, maybe because I’m getting on in years, but I can’t help but feel that the human spirit is capable of both enormous cruelty and volumes of kindness. Maybe even by the same person. Who knows, maybe you should give your country more time.
Keep well,

]]> By: April http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-53 April Tue, 12 Sep 2006 00:38:41 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-53 Thank you so much, Nancy. I've noticed your references to your sister on your blog and have always felt so much empathy for you. It takes a very long time to get past the most intense part of the grieving. Unfortunately, based on my own experience, I don't imagine the U.S. will pull itself together for many more years to come. I can't watch any of the 9/11 coverage either. It feels manipulative to me... politicians using one of our most horrible collective experiences to try to improve their approval ratings; the media exploiting it for advertising dollars. I can't say I'm surprised, but I am disappointed. I had hoped we were better than that. But the past five years in particular have really made me doubt it. Thank you so much, Nancy. I’ve noticed your references to your sister on your blog and have always felt so much empathy for you. It takes a very long time to get past the most intense part of the grieving. Unfortunately, based on my own experience, I don’t imagine the U.S. will pull itself together for many more years to come.

I can’t watch any of the 9/11 coverage either. It feels manipulative to me… politicians using one of our most horrible collective experiences to try to improve their approval ratings; the media exploiting it for advertising dollars. I can’t say I’m surprised, but I am disappointed. I had hoped we were better than that. But the past five years in particular have really made me doubt it.

]]> By: Nancy http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Nancy Tue, 12 Sep 2006 00:11:12 +0000 http://bigskyastrology.com/bloggish/2006/09/11/heart-of-darkness/#comment-52 I am so sorry about your brother and mother. My sister died in 1992. The only thing that saved me was being pregnant with my son. I find that if I allow myself to feel all my feelings (even the sucky ones) I am ok. But it has taken 14 years to get here. I just wonder if we had really grieved and not turned our emotions to hatred where we would be. And, I think our "leaders" took advantage of our grief for their own reasons. I cannot watch any 9/11 coverage. It is just too much for me and I don't personally know anyone who involved. I am so sorry about your brother and mother. My sister died in 1992. The only thing that saved me was being pregnant with my son.

I find that if I allow myself to feel all my feelings (even the sucky ones) I am ok. But it has taken 14 years to get here.

I just wonder if we had really grieved and not turned our emotions to hatred where we would be. And, I think our “leaders” took advantage of our grief for their own reasons.

I cannot watch any 9/11 coverage. It is just too much for me and I don’t personally know anyone who involved.

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